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I'm a mother of four grandmother of seven and great grandmother of three. I live with my husband in the house that we built with the help of my brothers and will have been married for 57 years this February.

Tuesday, December 20, 2022


That little old lady is me.  I'm still whining about not having enough time to post on my blog or clean the house or pull loops. A lot of my time is spent helping my husband do the things he can no longer do for himself and his eyesight is not good at all. There's nothing wrong with his long-term memory but his short-term memory is getting worst. I spent the whole day filing three years of his personal papers which he just piled in a drawer, lol.

 Two weeks ago, he lost his cell phone in the woods quite a long distance from here, while he went to tow my granddaughter's partner's truck that got stuck in the mud in the woods and he had their three kids with them,  while they went to get a Christmas tree. It started to rain heavily by the time he got home and realized that his phone was missing. He remembered using his smartphone to call my granddaughter while he was in the truck. He didn't realize he had lost it until he got home. The phone went dead so we couldn't pin the location from the towers.

He got himself a new smartphone but it's different than his first one and he's having difficulty remembering how to use it and constantly is asking me for help. I'm having difficulty with it too as it's way different than my iPhone. I'm slowly getting to know how it works.

Yesterday morning, he came to wake me up because he couldn't find his cell phone. Sleepy-eyed, I asked him, did you look in the holder on your belt. He said no. He looked and he had his phone on him. He's getting more and more dependent on me and it's getting me worried.

This morning he went to work at the farm and went to several places in the industrial park not far from here for parts, and when he got home, he realized that he didn't have his cell phone on him. I called his phone but it rang on our house phone. It's arranged that way so we don't miss calls for the business when he's too busy to answer his cell.

I took him to all three businesses he had been to and nobody had seen his phone. We backtracked all the places he had been on the farm and then we went home. I prayed to St Anthony of Padua, the patron of lost items,  and I went to check his lazy boy chair. I removed the thick blanket that is used to cover his chair and stuck my hand deep on the side and there it was, in airplane mode. I spent the whole morning searching and within 5 minutes after I prayed, there it was.

I've been working in the office a lot lately for the farm business, trying to tie up all the loose ends, I also have to be on top of my husband's personal papers as well as my own, and his financial investment papers are a bit more complex than mine.  A lot of business transactions are time sensitive and he used to be on top of everything, now I have to remind him of what needs to be done before a certain date every month. 

Little by little things are getting straightened out, like shifting utility bills in my name so I can get into the account and download the bills on my own computer and pay them online. Things are getting more and more complex. 

We had a new wireless modem and router put in and after the technician left, I lost my internet, and also the connection to the printer. Then it was printing and now it's not printing again. I need my printer to work to print bills that come in. Even the security alarm has been affected by this new wireless modem thing. I think I'm ready to go live in a little cabin, deep in the woods.

The day before yesterday, one very important government paper couldn't be found. After a search I found it and I decided to straighten out some of his papers.  I worked all day filing his personal papers and had to drive him to town to do some financial transactions at the bank. Then he needed help to fill 10 books of tickets for his fraternal organization. Needless to say, I didn't get any of the things I was planning to do for Christmas except get some turkeys, for my granddaughter and for ourselves while they were on sale on our way back home.

We got dumped on with about 6 inches of heavy snow. It was very pretty but I never had the chance to play and make even a small snowman, lol.

My tree is finally up and also a few decorations at my entrance and in the living room.  It took me three days to set it up, lol...  The Nativity is always the first thing I put out at the beginning of Advent. I don't have any poinsettias this Christmas but I'm sure to get a few small ones from the church after Christmas. I have my fruitcake done but I need to make some cranberry cookies and some tourtiere meat pies. I won't be shopping in crowded malls again this year but will give money gifts instead.

I set up my little village on my roll-top desk. It was very somber when I took this photo.

My loyal welcoming committee waiting to greet you at the door.

That's all the decoration I put up so far except a wreath on the outside and inside the front door.

Two weeks ago I set up a puzzle that I bought at the church bazaar and thought it would be an easy one. It was more difficult than I had expected because the pieces were of different sizes and shapes and went in different directions, but I enjoyed working on it and finished it. I find it very de-stressing and therapeutic.


  1. You have a heck of a lot on your plate at the moment. Look after yourself while you are looking after others. Please.
    Love your puzzle and your decorations.

  2. Your tree is absolutely gorgeous!!!!!! You do have a lot on your plate and understand how frustrating it must be for you. For sure you need some de-stressing hooking or puzzles to do. So does your husband now have 2 phones?

    1. No my husband's other new smart phone was never recovered. It must have died in the rain as we couldn't get any tracking to locate it, using the tracking app. It rain pretty heavy and it got very windy as well. It may have fallen in the mud when my husband was hitching the truck. I wanted to go all the way back there to find it but my husband say, no, he would simply gat another one.

  3. Well you kind of reminded me of me when Bob first had his stroke. His short term memory was gone. It was very stressful, so I know how you are feeling...especially with the losing of the phone. Even today I have to make sure Bob has his phone on him. Every day he still asks me the same questions over and over. I have gotten use to it now. My thoughts and prayers are with you now and your husband. Although you did not have much time to decorate, your tree is so pretty and love your entry guests! Janice

  4. I am so sorry this seems to be the next chapter in your life.
    You both have worked so hard your whole life.
    I love your tree and your entry so sweet I do hope you get time to relax and enjoy the season.

  5. Merry Christmas Julia,
    I will be praying for your husband. My mom is starting to have more memory issues. My sister and I have discussed it. It is getting more difficult for my dad.
    I enjoyed seeing your Christmas decorations.
    I also find doing a puzzle de stressing.
    Merry Christmas,

  6. Dear Julia,
    So sorry to hear about all the memory issues your husband is having. I will keep you both in my prayers and hope it won't get any worse. It is hard enough keeping up with every day life and with all the paperwork you have to deal with I would be pulling out my hair!!!
    Your tree looks beautiful ;-) I think this is the first year I have not had a poinsettia. What happened to the giant ones you had a few years ago?
    Merry, merry Christmas, dear friend.

    1. Dear Lauren, the three huge poinsettias got too big and in the spring, I needed more room in my sunroom to grow my bedding plants for the garden so I put them outside. The white flies got to them so I threw them out. I don't usually buy poinsettias, I usually get them as gifts or win some at our annual Christmas party, when the table decorations are given away as prices at the end of the evening.

  7. Your tourtiere meat pies caught my attention. That is something I make every Christmas. A family tradition from my relatives who live in Maine. Love those meat pies! Your Christmas Tree is beautiful. Your home is lovely, and looks ready for Christmas. Very sorry for the hardship with your husbands memory. Will say a prayer for both of you. Hope you can find many quiet moments to find some peace and contentment. Merry Christmas.

  8. I really like your greeting snowmen. They are so cute. Love your tree. Mine is small and sits on a chair. Big trees are to hard for me anymore.

  9. So very sorry for the phase of life that you are going through with your husband. I am keeping you and him both in prayers. Love your decorations! Wishing you a wonderful Christmas and a blessed new year!

  10. Many prayers for you and your husband. Your decorations are so pretty! Wishing you a wonderful Christmas and a blessed new year!

  11. Yes, please do look after yourself. I thought I was doing fine, then my husband died and the extent of the stress became evident - leukemia diagnosis from the stress. I am amazed at all you have accomplished!!!! Everything is done so well and looks so pretty.

  12. Wow, your tree is beautiful. How perfectly it is decorated. My hubby never wanted a cell phone, but I bought him one anyway. He practically has nothing to do with it. I have been teaching him things about it, but he isn't much interested. He finally started using the local weather app so he could watch the radar. In a way, I admire him for his don't-care-attitude. All those electronic gadgets that are supposed to make our lives easier, really make things more difficult. I love your welcoming committee and the cats!

  13. Oh goodness Julia, you really do have a lot of new extra work on your already full plate. It sounds very stressful with technology and your husband's short-term memory loss. I hope and pray that this will get easier and not harder. I am glad the Patron saint of lost things helped you.
    Your tree and roll desk look really gorgeous!x