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I'm a mother of four grandmother of seven and great grandmother of one. I have many hobbies and interests but gardening and rug hooking are my main interest at the moment. I live with my husband in the house that we built with the help of my brothers and have been married for 51years.

Tuesday, July 17, 2018


Since I haven't had much spare time to post lately, and I'm getting emails, I thought I better post something. I haven't used my camera much lately as it's been so hot and sunny and the photos come out washed out.

I've been weeding and weeding and weeding. Weeding at the farm and weeding at home... The flood sure made a mockery of my mulching last fall,  since it all floated away,  I was treated with an overdose of weeds. Even though the vegetable gardens were late to be planted it's all doing very well. I have small green tomatoes and tiny green peppers starting to grow. The potatoes are blooming but because it's so dry, I have to water the veggies and flowers often.

Now about one of the books I mentioned in my last post, namely, Dodging Energy Vampires by Caroline Northrup.  I know, Vampire is a strong word but it fits the description.  I had never heard about Energy Vampires before but I learned a lot from this book and also from my search on the internet. There is so much information that I can't remember it all at the moment...

 So this post is about a short essay about what Energy Vampires are and not a review of this book or a complete description of what Energy Vampires are and the damage they can cause their victims over time...  They prey on their victims because they are in emotional pain.

They can make you sick and you can even die after a while if you are exposed to their constant energy drain on you. They can cause you to doubt yourself, make you feel depressed, make you feel small and unimportant, and make you feel like you are not good enough and that everything is your fault.  It kind of snowball unless you come to realize that you are OK and the problem is not you.
The book explains the steps you can take to protect yourself.

I'm sure you all have come into contact with Energy Vampires at some time but maybe you did not recognize them as such. I was aware that some people drained my energy, especially one customer of mine I remember, every time she came into my shop, left me drained.  Other people also mentioned that she left them drained after a brief encounter with her.

These people drain your energy because they don't seem to have the capacity to generate their own energy. They always need to be around people. They are born that way so it's really not their faults. It's part of their personality. They have low self-esteem but you'de never know it. They can be very charming and once they have a good hold on you, they feed off your energy by making you dependent on them but in reality, they are dependant on you.

There are different types or traits of Energy Vampires and some come with combined traits... They may be some in your own family. They come in all sizes, age, professions, and they are either males or females. Interestingly, more males than females are Energy Vampires...  Some can be your own young children, parents, siblings, relatives, your coworkers, bosses, clergy, religious, etc...

I'll talk about the Narcissistic Type of  Energy Vampires first.
They think that the world is revolving around them and it's all about them.  They always want to be first. They have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and they feel entitled and craved admiration. They want to be the center of attention and will do anything to draw attention to themselves. They are never wrong, never apologize for their mistakes and never takes the responsibility for their shortcoming but blame others instead.

If you don't do things their way, you'll suffer punishments in some form or other. They will become withholding and cold, and give you the silent treatment. You'll fall out of grace quickly with them.  There is no reasoning with them. They are incapable of unconditional love. Everything depends on them getting their way. They will even try to make you part with your money. Everything is conditional...

Some are Judgemental Energy Vampires and they have severe low self-esteem. They like to make you feel small, pathetic or ashamed. It's the only way they can bolster their own ego.

The Controlling Energy Vampires, are obsessed with controlling how you should be and what you should do even if you are very educated and successful.  It's not enough for them. They want you to produce more. They are very opinionated about everything. They have to dominate the situation and they are always putting people down and telling them and you what you should do. They plot to keep you under their hold. The victims come out feeling put down and dominated and trapped.

Another type of Energy Vampires is the Talker Energy Vampires. They are only concerned about themselves and are not really interested in what you have to say.  It's hard to get your word across with these people.

Energy Vampires are attracted to empaths. I hate to say it but I am an empath.   If you don't know what an empath is, there is a lot of information on the internet. It could be another post altogether...

I hope I have peaked your curiosity and you will take a look on the internet for yourself.  If not, then, it's OK by me.

Keep cool and have a great week.
Hugs, Julia


  1. Wow, I have to find that book. It is really hot here to Julia our cows have noticed the drought now. You have gotten so much done I think you are amazing. Keep cool. I hope it rains soon. Hug B

  2. Mmm I will check out the library for that book. It sounds like a good read. I’ve got plenty of time to read. Take care, Julia


  3. I found it very interesting.
    Nice to meet your blog.

  4. I definitely have experience with the talking energy vampires. Sometimes it feels like you could be a big stuffed animal and serve the same purpose.
    Thanks, Julia!

  5. I think we all have come in contact with at least on of those types of vampires.
    Very interesting.

  6. My mind is spinning of all the different people I know and work with. Vampires.....interesting.

    I hope you take a little time to enjoy the summer.

  7. Wow! You’ve just described a lot of things we’ve thought but have not articulated.
    I’m getting that book.

  8. Good to hear from you, Julia :)
    Energy Vampire is a good term. I always say people like that "suck the life out of me".
    Sounds like you live in the garden of weedin'. I don't know how you do it all!!!

  9. Very interesting post sweet Julia. I am glad to hear that your garden is doing well. I hope soon you will have all the weeding work so hard. Sorry about your mulch. I hope it gets cooler son you do not have to work in the heat. It has been very hot here too and dry. We finally got some rain yesterday and could get more today. Sending love and hugs your way.

  10. That is definitely an intriguing sounding book and I have certainly come across people of all those types!
    Poor you with all the weeding and your wasted Mulching. Still, I am glad that your late-planted crops are coming to fruition. Hope you are well.x x

  11. Good to hear from you, Julia! A Summer full of weeds Is very hard work! Hopefully next Spring will be more kind to your area and if you mulch again this fall, it will stay put. There are many energy vampires among us...your life will be healthier when you "weed them out" too.
    I'm ready for about you? lol!

  12. Hi Julia,
    I had to get away from an Energy Vampire back in 2012. It was a hard choice, because I knew my withdrawal from her, would create her to be nasty. And she was, she was so mean and said terrible tings about me.
    Now today in 2018 I am so happy I broke free of her. She judged every thing I did with the boys, how we raised them. What movies we watched, books, radio stations, sports teams it was just awful. Yet, I was thinking I was wrong and she right, so I would follow her. Until one day, I said no more, I am not doing anything wrong in the way I parent.
    Anyway .. Good post, thank you.

  13. ... I see a typo on my end .. said terrible tings .. should be things. ;-)

  14. Carla, thanks for the comment. Good for you for breaking away from this Energy Vampire. It takes a lot of guts to break free of an Energy Vampire. It's obviously a great thing you did for you and your family.
    Hugs, Julia

  15. Hi Julia,
    Yes, my greatest fear was that I would be a energy vampire and people would try to get away from me. My Mother in law has said that I was a narcissist.
    So reading this from you book makes me always look at myself first. Ron always laughs about it. I am so sorry you have had to weed so much. Do you know this is the first year we mulched everything and I have had not had to weed. You have always asked me about that and if I did. I guess I didn't understand. Boy do I understand now. Its been really hot here too. I hope it cools off for you soon. It was so nice to see your post. I hope you have a nice weekend.

  16. I too may have been friends with an energy vampire, but since I didn't see her often, it may have been hard to detect. I no longer see her and, thinking back, I know that I forgave her a lot because she had been severly abused as a child. Other than that, I haven't had many issues with these kinds of people.

  17. Sounds like a very interesting book! I've met many people like the ones you've described in my hospital career. I often joke about the "fun sponges"..they suck the fun out of any situation or occasion almost as soon as they walk in the room. I hope you take time for yourself during this hot summer and watch your health. It's cooled off here and we have rain the next few days, so no need to water..yeah! I'll send it up to you! Take care Julia!

  18. This is very interesting Julia - I have met people that are energy vampires and they do suck you for all you have. I actually had to end a
    friendship with a gal who was exactly that and you're right it's just who they are but she was so draining. I decided to quit feeding into all her drama and amazingly enough once I wasn't there for her she stopped calling and coming around. Hope you are doing well Julia. Take care and have a wonderful week!

  19. I'm an empath, too, Julia and I appreciate the share about energy loss due to being sucked into the vortex of a controlling energy. Oh how I've been there.
    It makes me doubly grateful for the energy boost I get from being around certain people and places.....makes me glad for the ones that give life.
    Makes me also hopeful and determined to be a life-bringer. I pray never to be the lead in someone's wings:)
    Hope the weeding goes well,

  20. Hi Julia,
    Thanks for sharing your post and I can certainly identify with the various types you mentioned!! The hardest thing to do is break away, but it is so necessary for your emotional and physical health!! We all need to surround ourselves with those who lift up and not tear down, don't we???
    Hope the weeding continues to go well and that you see an end in sight!!
    Take care, dear friend, and try not to work too hard!!!
    Heart Hugs~
    Julie xo

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  22. i had a friend that wore me out physically and mentally every time i talked to her.. we have parted ways and i dont miss her at all, sad to say but true.. she lives a few blocks from me and i havent even ran into her which has been nice! this book sounds interesting and i am going to google and research this a bit!